It's a Hard Knock Life

Because I've gotten in the habit of going to bed so late every night, as a cause of Webchatting with my boyfriend living on Pacific time, I can't sleep right now. I should be exhausted though.

I can't sleep because I've been very bothered by what I'm seeing on Sex and the City. So, it started when I watched Sex and the City, the movie, for the first time a few weeks ago. Then, I downloaded the 1st 2 seasons of the TV show to see what the show was actually like. At first, I was appalled by the ugly '90s fashion and the multiple asides that makes up the show (because Carrie "interviews" all these people for her column, so they talk into the camera lens, which is a bit weird). But then, as I watched more and more, I realized that the common dating dilemmas that Carrie and her friends faced are actually not so different from ones that young adults and even teenagers are still experiencing: Guys just want the physical with no emotional attachments, Sex can turn into a power struggle or a demonstration of power in a relationship, Guys with weird fetishes, Guys who don't call girls back even though they promised, Monogamy vs. Friends With Benefits. What haven't we seen or experienced? What hasn't made us want to pull out all of the hair that we worked so hard to grow out and tame? Why is it that with advances in medicine and technology and an overall betterment of our lifestyle, we still see the same dating nightmares?

And all of it is so ironic. When women want a serious relationship, guys don't. So then we try to be like a guy and take a dab at the whole "friends with benefits" thing, but then we find out that the guy we're trying that with actually wants to be in a relationship. And in the end, we're the ones who get labeled as whores, heartbreakers and bitches. Rough life.

What's even more depressing is that these dilemmas will evolve and become more complex as we get older. Then, apartments, jobs, money and the dreaded biological clock will only serve as gas being added to a crackling flame. I just don't understand why it's so hard to find another person with the same intentions, goals and values. I'm sure you're snorting as you read this. Afterall, it's coming from a happily dating girl. What has she got to complain about, right? The thing is, SATC isn't exactly painting a very bright picture of the future (not to mention it feeds into my aversion of cities). I hope that the quality of relationships and the ease of dating will be directly proportional to the advancements in technology because otherwise, we're in for a pretty hard knock life.